In 1859 Anne Bullard of Amherst sent a polite letter to suitor Daniel Norton of Suffield, Connecticut informing him that she would not accept his proposal. Upon reflection she is “unalterably persuaded that it is unadvisable” for them to continue their acquaintance. She does this politely and formally. At the end she expresses her “gratitude for your kindness and consideration,” and informs him that “no objections to your age, circumstances, or personal appearance have anything to do with my decision.” It is not known if Anne ever married.
Amherst, March 7th 1839
Since you left, I have candidly and seriously considered the matter of a continued acquaintance and with the view proposed, and am unalterably persuaded that it is unadvisable. The more I consider on the subject, the deeper is my conviction, that I am not suited to fill the position contemplated. I know I should not please your family, and I do not believe that you, yourself, would find me capable of meeting the responsibilities of the situation.
While I say this allow me to express my gratitude for your kindness and consideration, and to say that no objections to your age, circumstances, or personal appearance have anything to do with my decision.
With sentiments of deep esteem
Anne T.J. Bullard